Let me just preface this by saying that I love my two little girls, now 13m and almost 3.5y. They are adorable and a lot of fun. I truly love them to bits.
But they are, especially the younger, babies. Crying, fussy, tantrumy, picky, no-napping, stubborn babies.
I actually enjoy kids, so much so that I’m bouncing around the idea of teaching after this SAHM stint ends. But I’m really not a baby person – and I do not feel guilty about that.
Some people really go gaga for squishy babies, but I am not one of them. When a newborn is paraded around, I literally walk the other way. I mean, I get as excited as any other mom about tiny baby clothes (my heart isn’t made of ice), but those newborn shrieks and exploding poopy diapers and rotten spit up and endless breastfeeding … NO. Give me homework struggles and school age drama any day.
Are you other moms excited for your kids to grow up too, or is it just me? I can’t wait until my girls are old enough that we can go hiking together, cook a meal without my nano-supervision, take a girls-only day trip, and do projects or crafts (grown up crafts, not the pom-pom and glitter crap Toddler makes now) together. I know people say, “Enjoy every day; they grow up so fast,” blah blah blah … but what if I want them to grow up? Just a little.
I don’t want them to speed through life so fast that I miss it, but I just think I’ll enjoy their last 14-15 years at home more than their first 3-4. This baby stage is hard and tiring– especially if you’re not a baby person. I love being a SAHM and I’m thankful/grateful that I can, but on the long days I can’t help looking forward to the future fun more than tomorrow.
I have great memories of my mom, older sister, and I going school clothes shopping in the fall … and having picnic lunches outside in the summer … taking girls-only trips to Door County, WI … and just hanging around playing and laughing. I’d be lying if I said I can’t wait to recreate that with my little family. Now, please.
I can’t wait for … sleepovers! Hearing my girls have intelligent (or at least coherent) conversations with each other! Listening to what my daughters think about a book they read! Visiting a museum with them! Going to a dance recital! Staying up late to watch fireworks on July 4th! Going to the 11pm church service on Christmas Eve!
Am I alone in this? You moms with a great mix of ages in your family … is the older stage better?