Why I Can’t Make it as a Millennial Parent

I’ve made a few mistakes as a parent so far – I mean, who hasn’t? – but I feel like a biggie lately has been being out of touch with what a parent does nowadays.

I’m not one to really spoil my kids, and I hate the whole “don’t touch my precious snowflake” mentality, so the whole rise of Pinterest Parents (it’s a thing, and dammit if I don’t have a Pinterest account) baffles me. I honestly can’t imagine why parents waste time making special treats for their kid’s soccer team practice … which lasts 45 minutes.

Or parents who have mastered the art of bento box lunches

Or parents who buy fancy gifts for their kid’s preschool Valentine’s Day exchange.

I was 100% that parent who had her kid give simple paper heart valentines this past February to her eight classmates. I expected her to receive eight similar valentines in return … just like I did when I was her age (actually I was in elementary school when valentine exchanges started, but whatever).

Nope – she got two small bubble wands, a plastic beach shovel, and a small book included in her short stack of cards. What?! Gifts for a 3yo’s Valentine’s Day? Give me a break!

Milennials - I am not one

Apparently I am behind the times, or living in the past, or I don’t know what – but I’m raising my kids how I was raised (simply, it seems), not in this over the top “I’ve got to give my kid the greatest” world we’re in right now.

Frankly, being a millennial parent kind of sucks. It’s not for me. I don’t fit the mold.

Yesterday at Squish’s ballet class, the kids were allowed to wear their Halloween costumes, and per the instruction pages we were given last week, we could “feel free to bring in treats.” I interpreted this to mean “Feel free to bring in Halloween cupcakes or something for the kids.” My response: Hell no. It’s not snack time and these kids already get too many treats.

But apparently that meant “Bring in a trick-or-treat treat for the kids,” because that’s what half the parents did (the other half is thankfully sane, like me, or just forgetful). Someone even made homemade chocolate-dipped pretzel rods. (I’m secretly thankful for that, because Squish shared.) But why? Aren’t they going trick or treating next Tuesday? Do we really need more treats? Can’t we just let them do their activities as usual, with a costume because tis the season, and leave it at that?

It’s too much, fellow millennials, too much. Can we just go back to simple parenting and simple celebrations like we had when I was a tyke? Thanks, and let’s all grab a glass of water and crust of bread now.

17 thoughts on “Why I Can’t Make it as a Millennial Parent

  1. I just remember being overwhelmed with all the CANDY at Halloween and Valentine’s Day and Easter. Before Brainiacal started preschool, she essentially never had candy, and then all of a sudden there were buckets full of it. Even in the young twos class. Who thinks this is a good idea??

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  2. Parent the way you want to, not how everyone else does. Seriously. You know in your heart what is right. Kids need parents, not friends (of you….they need you to be parent not friend). They need to know that objects and money do not bring happiness. Learn to communicate with your kid….seriously….if you learn how to talk to them, and how to get them to talk to you, you will be an incredibly successful parent!! And if you want to vent, just talk to me. What wait till I’ve cleared out my mailbox!!

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  3. Yes, so much yes.
    The only time I’m thankful for the intense food crafting is when I’m lingering at the snack table during school parties. It’s honestly some of the best meals I eat.

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  4. “My response: Hell no.” Girl, you’re too funny! As a mom, I’m truly learning the simpler, the better. I just focus on strengthening the quality of my relationship with my kids. I don’t mind when other moms outdo themselves, but it’s troubling to learn that some of them base their worth on how great they can recreate a Pinterest project (and judge other moms for not doing as they do).

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    • Thanks. 🙂 I can totally see you sharing my mindset on this!!
      I think some moms generally enjoy being creative (that’s cool – I do, too), but I try not to get my children wound up in it. Or if I want to involve them, I have them do the craft and let it turn out sloppy or not at all.

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  5. The world has gone crazy with this unnecessary gifting shit, hasn’t it? It’s like a one-upmanship or something. Insane. I’m with you on the Millennial-gen parenting thing. It gets over the top. Then again, not just about parenting but a few other biggies that gets on my nerves as well. I shall not start on it. 😝

    Go with the hearts and pieces of paper. That’s the best. And no, the kids don’t need more sugar. 😊

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    • I can’t tell you how heartening it is to read that other people hold the same views as me!! Yes, Millennials bug the crap out of me, to. SO over the top. I am such an old-fashioned person and a luddite, so I feel out of step sometimes, but perhaps I’m not so much as I thought.

      Yes, simple stuff rocks!


  6. Holiday parties at preschool always make me feel like such a slacker, and I actually seek out crafty stuff to do on Pinterest for some events (but I have my limits). We’re talking hand-made ornaments, wrapped in cellophane, with personalized name tags that are tied off in ribbons! Just wth? I’ll do a goody bag with a few pieces of candy…

    On one hand, I don’t have an issue with the little mini-celebrations, but rarely are the “Let’s have a little treat at dance class” things really just a little five-minute thing. Why does everything single little thing have to be a big deal? Will kids even appreciate the actual main events with all of the surrounding fluff?

    It goes down as they get older, though. They don’t even have class parties at LM’s school anymore, for holidays or birthday.

    I do miss the good old days though. Important things were important, moms generally didn’t try to out-do each other with gifts and fancy $300 cakes or $5 a pop cookies, and they didn’t have the pressure of having to top each thing with something bigger.

    Sorry for posting a book of a comment 😉

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    • I love the comment! Obviously you feel strongly about this, too, which is great. I completely agree about kids not appreciating what the parents do for their little treats – and I too wonder if they would enjoy the main event with it. We should encourage kids to live in the moment and enjoy the experience. Yet as the generation who takes endless photos and videos and spends hours on all the BS auxiliary stuff, how can we expect our kids to be different from us????

      Omg, a $300 cake. I couldn’t ever!

      I miss the good ole days, too. It is really heartening to read that things do calm down as kids get older. !


  7. I agree with you, and I think something is lost when we focus more on the bells and whistles than we do on the actual social interaction. I have a millenial daughter, but I’m proud to say she does not fit the “snowflake” mold. I believe it’s because I raised her without all that showy/expensive stuff. We had fun with whatever we had – which was never very much. And now she’s a really sweet, non-materialistic young adult.


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